Friday, November 6, 2015

My Ostomy Story - 6 Things I Want You to Know

February 7, 2013 my life changed forever. I was 9 years old, and had lived with severe Inflammatory Bowel Disease for 7 months. I had run out of medication options to help get the inflammation under control and needed to have my colon removed in a procedure known as a sub-total colectomy. I then had to have an ileostomy to create a new way of eliminating poop from my body. Since that time I have lived life wearing a colostomy bag, something you rarely hear people talk about in public. I would like to share here what I want others to know about life with an ostomy.

6 things I wished others knew about life with an ostomy:

1. It's ok to have mixed feelings. I both wanted and didn't want this surgery at the same time. I had spent the last several months before my surgery either in the hospital, in the ER, or in a doctor's office. I had missed a lot of school and the chance to make new friends as I had started at a brand new school. I was tired of being sick all the time and just wanted life to go back to normal. But on the other side of things, I knew that this surgery might mean living with an ostomy forever. I didn't know what it would be like to look at my body after the surgery and worried that my stoma would get damaged easily. I worried what others would think if they knew. Would the kids at school tease me and make fun of the fact that I was even more different? This surgery is a huge life-changer that like life, has both positives and negatives. It's ok to think and feel both sides of this situation.

2. It can be embarrassing. There's no shortage of things that can happen when you have an ostomy. Leaks are one of the major problems with the bag. And they will happen at the most inconvenient times possible. Such as when you are stuck in major traffic and have nowhere to go. Or when you're in a public place and forget your supplies that day. "Releasing gas" or as my friend Jen puts it "Stoma squeeks" are another problem. And they will happen the moment things around you turn silent. There is absolutely nothing you can do to avoid this from happening, so it's best to develop a sense of humor when it happens.

3. There is no shame in having an ostomy. Earlier this year, an anti-smoking campaign featured a commercial with a lady talking about her ostomy bag that she had to get after developing colon cancer from smoking. Having an ostomy was shown as being absolutely disgusting and essentially something to be ashamed of. There are a lot of reasons why a person might need an ostomy, and most of them are for life-saving reasons. If my colon hadn't been removed, I could have died if it perforated. Being able to live is much more important than the inconveniences of a bag. Yes it can be gross to empty, and of course there is a smell, but I'd rather deal with that than not have a life.

4. An ostomy doesn't change who I am. It changes how my bodily wastes comes out, that is all. I am still human and have feelings. I still get worried about what others might think. I still have dreams and fears. I am still capable of most of everything that I was before I had the surgery (no more dodgeball thankfully!).

5. I don't mind you asking questions about it. I'd rather you ask me questions than to shy away from me or avoid me. I don't mind talking about it because it brings more awareness to something that no one talks about. I had never even heard the word "stoma" before 2012 when both my grandfather and I had to have ostomy surgeries (my grandfather is stage 4 bladder cancer survivor). Since then I have met so many kids who live with an ostomy bag, and have helped a few who were going to be going through with the surgery. It's only through talking about it that we can build awareness and acceptance.

6. I don't regret the surgery. Going into the surgery, we had thought that it was going to be a temporary solution until they did an ostomy reversal surgery known as a JPouch surgery. I think in the back of my mind I knew that this ostomy might be forever. My thoughts were confirmed when a few months later I was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease and likely will never be able to have an ostomy reversal. I'm ok with that. My ostomy gave me a bit of a life back again. It helped so that I could at least be at home with my family instead of in the hospital. I'm proud that I was able to accept the situation and turn it into a positive by donating my colon to research to help find a cure for this disease.

Life goes on after an ostomy. It's an adjustment, but you do go on to make a "new normal". Some days will be completely frustrating but when you remind yourself of what life would be like without it, there really is no choice other than to carry on. My ostomy reminds me daily that I am a survivor.


  1. Thank you Jacob for sharing your story. I was diagnosed with Crohns in 1989. Oct 5, 2015 I just had my 1st major surgery. My colon had to be removed and I have a temporary ostomy. I'm supposed to have reversal surgery in December and I'm not sure if I want to. It is so nice not having to run to the bathroom 20+ times a day. Stress isn't a good thing so I'm planning on keeping my ostomy a while. The positive outweighs the negative at this moment.

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